The importance of Support…and I’m not talking about Control Tops or Sports Bras!

So the Outer Banks Marathon weekend is upon us.  I will be running a half marathon in less than 72 hours.  Am I nervous?  Well it depends on the moment.  I’m excited half the time and scared to death the other half of the time.  I just have to keep remember why I’m running this.  I’m running for Charlie.  He can’t run.  Heck, he can barely walk now.  And even though it’s painful for him to move around a lot, when I need him to get up, he does it and doesn’t complain…well, not much anyway.  So who am I to complain about the fact that I have the ability to run 13.1 miles?

Really at this point it’s all a mental game.  I’ve been training for this since April, I just didn’t know it!  Matt made sure of that…he’s sneaky like that you know.  If I can just keep my mind in order until about mile 6, I’ll be golden.  I know physically I can do this.  There’s no question.  It’ll hurt some for sure, but it’s supposed to hurt.  Anything hard to get is worth the pain to get there.  Shoot, so much of what we do hurts anyway.  We don’t let that stop us in other areas of life.  Giving birth, that’s a real doozy but women purposely get pregnant all the time, some even for a second and third time!!!  Drinking too much wine hurts…the next day, and yet I still partake in that exercise more often than I should.  When will I learn?

The point is…things in life that are worth having usually don’t come easily.  They’re not supposed to.  What makes it all worthwhile is that fighting spirit and sense of accomplishment when it’s done.  That’s why I’m going to fight through the pain, fight through the mental challenges, get my medal at the finish line, drink a beer and then go home to show Charlie that I did it all for him!

I know the title of this blog is about support, so I’ll get to it finally.  There is no way one takes on an endeavor like this without a support system.  In my case the support system is the only reason I am able to take this on.  My family at Outer Banks Bootcamps is…well…there’s really only one fitting way to describe them…simply AMAZING.  The Outer Banks is a special place to live.  God made this place special through the beautiful ocean, sky, nature and also the people who occupy this island and call it home.  I’m sure there are great people in many places…I’ve had the good fortune to meet some of the greatest people here on this little barrier island.

The strength, commitment, enthusiasm, community spirit, diversity and compassion that our little (growing every day though) group of bootcampers possesses is….well…once again…simply AMAZING.  I have never in my 37 years been a part of something like this.  There is a true sense of family and community amongst us.  We are fiercely loyal to Matt and Jay and they return the protection to us as well.  That’s what the strongest families do. 

I shudder at the thought that I almost didn’t stick with it. That would have been a big mistake.  God has a plan.  Things happen for a reason.  Sometimes we don’t see it until later, but when we do how can you help not looking back, smiling, nodding your head and knowing something much greater than you is in control and always has your back!  I now realize that going through all the discomfort, the growth, the connecting, the sweat, the cursing (well maybe he didn’t plan that) I was in the right place all along with the absolute right people.

From the bottom of my heart I can never thank you all enough for the lifting words. The quiet prayers. The delicious food. The endless encouragement. The smiles. The hand squeezes.  The shoulders to cry on.  The delivery of bed pads.  The text messages. The facebook messages.  The beautiful birthday surprise party.  The 20 minute drive to do a 2 minute limb removal.  The bottles of wine followed by truth or dare.  The running partner.  The reassurance I can do it.  Oh, I could go on and on.  In a nutshell, it’s the SUPPORT.   I am so blessed and grateful to be part of your group, your family.

And lastly, the support from our fearless leaders Matt and Jay has been off the charts.  If you don’t have someone like these two in your life, you’re truly missing out. You’re missing out so much that once you have them you can’t imagine life without them.  I’ve had many mentors in my years and have loved them all.  These guys take it to that next level.  I can’t even finish writing this without the tears streaming.  I hope you know how deeply important you are to us.  You are the head of this family and its strength is a direct reflection of you as leaders.  You surround yourself with the best of the best and I’m so blessed to be a part.

So, to sum it all up…Thank You.  Love You.  See You Sunday at the finish!

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Hurricane Sandy – Tuesday, October 30th, 2012

Here are some videos of the damage Hurricane Sandy did to the Outer Banks. Check back often because I’m out and about still taking shots!! Hope all are safe and sound!

Hurricane Sandy Damage on the Outer Banks

Here we go again … seems like we just got over Irene!

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Balance – it’s difficult even with both legs!

So we’ve been home from the hospital over a week now and it’s been good to be home.  It’s also been more difficult than I thought to manage everything I want to do.  I’m determined NOT to create excuses, but to create solutions.

The reality is Charlie has cancer.  He’s not feeling well most of the time.  In fact a good day is now described as being able to get him to the bathroom twice a day without vomiting.  It’s an ugly disease.  It’s not welcome in my home or in my adorable Charlie.  In the midst of fighting this disease and eradicating it from our lives, the show must go on.

This is where the attempt at balance comes in.  The bills keep coming and my weight will come back if I’m not careful.  Especially with all the mouth watering foods we’re receiving from all the wonderful friends and family we have.  This was so clear to me last Thursday.  I went for a training session with Matt for the first time in over 2 weeks.  It was hell.  I barely made it through 2 circuits in 30 minutes when a month ago I could have easily done 3.  I felt so defeated.

I realized right then that no matter what is going on in your life, you have to make solutions, not excuses.  I have to keep my physical health up, or I’m no good to Charlie.  I have to keep my business going, or I’ll create another problem I don’t need. So I’m determined to be in SOLUTION mode.

I’ve run every day since that failed training session.  I’m feeling good. I still have some doubts about finishing the half marathon in less than 4 weeks, but I’m just taking it one day at a time.  I’m also taking time each day to prospect and follow up with leads in my business.  I’m determined to stay on top.  I want it, I need it and I’m willing to EARN it.

I’m going to meet my goals for 2012.  Both my physical and business goals.  I have 15 pounds to lose and 4 more houses to sell.  And I will succeed. After all I’m best under pressure.  I’ve learned that much in my nearly 37 years. (Birthday is next week)

Without these solutions I can’t balance my number one priority…taking the BEST care of Charlie.  He’s my inspiration, my love and the most courageous person I know!

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Ilona versus Running

In the last blog I introduced how I got involved in Bootcamp, some of the incredible results I’ve achieved and the idea that running is now a part of my life.  Before we get started, let me be very clear about one thing.  I do not like to run.  As a matter of fact, most (not all, there are some freaks out there) people I’ve met in Bootcamp share the same thoughts about running.

When I first started working with Mike Ferry (the leading National coaching company for real estate) he kept telling us we had to “Prospect.”  He’d say, “You can’t be a successful salesperson if you don’t generate leads every day.”  I soon discovered he was right.  Only one problem though….most of us hate prospecting.  I mean why wouldn’t we?  It’s uncomfortable, brings rejection and if you’re not practiced in it you can get shut down pretty quickly.  So now what?  How can one build a successful sales business without it?  Well one way would be to spend massive dollars buying business through advertising. I didn’t have that kind of money.  Neither did the agents I was managing at the time.

So our only choice was to embrace the fact that while we never have to LIKE or ever LOVE prospecting, we have to RESPECT the fact it’s how we will get to our production and financial goals.  That’s a big pill to swallow and one that takes most a bit of time and a real determination to achieving the goals we set.  See, many agents who had options, or weren’t as motivated to really meet the goals just wouldn’t buy in to this idea.  They will spend a lot of time resisting.  When I decided in 2011 to resign from being a real estate coach and go to sales full time, I immediately started prospecting.  Now here I am a year and a half later on track to achieve my sales goals for the year.  I still dislike prospecting, but I’ve gotten good at it and it gets me to my goals.   So I do it because failure is not an option.

Why did I go into that long dissertation about sales when you thought this blog was about running? Well, because the same concept applies. I may or may not ever like or love running.  However, I now embrace that it’s the main activity that will help me achieve my fitness goals.  Just like prospecting I have learned to RESPECT this part of my training as necessary, essential even.  I will learn over time to do it better.  I will learn some days will be better than others.  I will deal with injuries, pain and being uncomfortable. All because I know this is the way to get where I want to go.

To prove this point last week I officially registered for the Outer Banks Half Marathon.  I am still in shock. In fact seeing these words I am not sure I’m even typing the right blog!  Why would someone who dislikes running so much, voluntarily sign up for AND PAY for the chance to run 13.1 miles? Honestly I don’t know!  Haha, just kidding.  I’m doing it because when I finish I will feel such a personal accomplishment it can only propel me that much faster to completing my fitness goals.

I remember the first listing I took from cold call prospecting.  I was so pumped I couldn’t stop calling.  I took 5 listings that month!  So by finishing this half marathon, a feat most would never even attempt, I will be propelled forward into great things for my physical well being.  I know it won’t be easy.  I know it will be painful.  I’m already very uncomfortable, so I must be doing something right.  Another lesson learned from my mentors in life is that you’re not growing unless your uncomfortable. Check!

To date I’ve run 7 different organized races.  They’ve all been a 5k, which is only 3.1 miles. My best time was the last race run on September 22, 2012 with an official time of 33:02.  During Bootcamp, I’ve run as far as 6 miles during an hour and a half.  Of course there were stops along the way, but it was 6 miles nonetheless. I have some serious training to do in 6 weeks time in order to be ready for the 13.1 mile challenge.  I have no doubt I can do it as long as I keep my mind focused and my training on track.

This will prove to be an even greater challenge now that we’ve discovered just this week that Charlie has another round of fighting Cancer.  This actually gives me even more determination to do this.  What an example of conflicting thoughts…thinking about how much I dislike running and then having the overwhelming appreciation that I am healthy enough to still run.  How could I ever take anything for granted again?

While the time to train will be challenging to find, I’m going to somehow find a way.  I’m running in spite of this damn cancer.  I’m running just to spite it.  I’m running to control my anger that someone so wonderful could be dealing with such overwhelming issues.  I’m running to strengthen my love for life and for God and for my adorable boyfriend Charlie.  I’m running for you honey.  I love you to the moon and back.  And without hesitation I’d run that far to heal you.

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Tax Re-evaluation, Bridge and other news

Fall is officially upon us and the weather here in Duck has been phenomenal.  This is by far the best time of year to visit the Outer Banks and I hope you’ll be able to take advantage of it as well.

In fact, you may already be planning a visit over Columbus Day Weekend.  If so, you’ll notice the annual Parade of Homes happening.  This is a big event for us and is a great opportunity to see the latest trends in building.  If you can’t make it, be sure to take a look at the full tour online…

You may also remember a brief note in a previous email about the 2012 Tax Re-evaluation that is taking place now.  The latest assessments for Dare County will be available to homeowners in January 2013.  Keep in mind, tax assessment is not designed to determine market value for the property, rather for the purpose of assessing taxes equally among property owners.  If you’re interested in more information you can visit Dare County’s website on the topic here.

Now for the latest Mid-Currituck Bridge update…the Joint Legislative Transportation Oversight Committee has scheduled a meeting to give an update on this project for October 8th in Raleigh.  If you have an interest in this be sure to contact Representative Owens with your thoughts.  You’ll also notice on the Turnpike Authority website regarding this project that the completion date has been pushed once again to January 2018.

Lastly, sales continue to be very strong here.  There’s overall a 19% increase in the number of sales so far this year over last year.  However, last month we saw a huge spike in foreclosure filings for Dare County.  No one is really sure what caused the increase.  The point is we aren’t ready for any appreciation just yet.  It remains a great time to buy and for those selling a wonderful opportunity to take advantage of the increased buyer activity.  Let me know if you need any data on the market.